\u201cThinking is mother of necessity and grandmother of invention.\u201d\n\n\n\nAs we breathe, and we take our breathing for granted, all of us think and but most of us take our thinking for granted. \n\n\n\n Since morning we get up, our first thought comes to mind whether to get up quickly or relax a bit and enjoy the warm bed for a little more time. And the process of thinking continues till we go to sleep. Also just before sleeping, we have thoughts like, what we need to do tomorrow early morning... and so on. So what is the relation between thinking and behavior?\n\n\n\nAccording to the book Mind Power by James Borg (a Positive psychologist and author of many books), every human being thinks around 60 to 70 thousand thoughts in a day. Imagine the number of thoughts we are to receive in our brain on a daily basis. This little brain with an average of 1.3 to 1.4 kg size in our body, if it has to go through all those thoughts and process them one by one, it will block all other human activities. The person may do nothing but just processing these thoughts. \n\n\n\nThe brain is very powerful to process the thoughts\n\n\n\nBy default, the brain has the ability to screen these thoughts and process only those thoughts which are appropriate for processing. That is why it is very important to have a habit of thinking positively. Only thoughts that are of benefit to a person need to be processed and other thoughts that are not of benefits can be ignored or let those just passing through. It depends from person to person, which kind of thought a person\u2019s mind thinks is important to process.\n\n\n\nA positive mindset does not mean ignoring any kind of danger or threat which may occur. It is to understand the threat and positively make a strategy to resolve it in a proper way. Considering them as a challenge rather than perceiving them as a threat to survival.\n\n\n\n \u201c \u2026for there is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so. \u201d William Shakespeare\n\n\n\nThere is a famous proverb, necessity is the mother of invention\u201d, in my opinion, thinking is the mother of necessity.\u00a0 When you think, you bring necessity to your life. And when necessity is recognized, you tend to search the ways to invent some ideas on how to produce things that will help in achieving it. So ultimately thinking became the grandmother of the invention. Everything we use in our life was invented by someone who had thought that it is a need for human life.\n\n\n\n Intellectual thinking\n\n\n\nWhen you think about thinking, you will know that you feel the way you think. It is not the event that makes you angry, but the belief which you attach to those events or thoughts is the real reason for it. Modern methods in psychology like Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) are used to focus people on their thoughts, their beliefs attach to those thoughts, and their effect on emotions and their behaviors. CBT helps people to correct their thinking patterns and assist them to alter their behavior accordingly. \n\n\n\n"Change the way you think, and you will change the way you feel."\n\n\n\nI myself have used this technique in my personal life. I found it to be very effective when I was very much affected by stress and anxiety.\n\n\n\nYour belief to an event produces your feelings and behavior\n\n\n\nThink about a day, you had a much stressed day in the office. The whole day, you were busy planning on a project which is been delayed from its planned date of delivery. Stakeholders have asked for the reason for this delay several times. You have been busy preparing a presentation to show what was the cause of the delay. And how this project will be successfully delivered by extending a very short and acceptable duration with not much additional cost involved in it. But when you look at the resources, you find that you are short of supplies. An additional push to the new deadline may increase the cost, which will affect the net profit from this project. \n\n\n\nTo know, Such situations are common in the business world. Some of us handle it in a professional way and some of us make a mess out of it in our business and family relations.\n\n\n\nRead more: How to handle stress at workplace\n\n\n\nAfter this tiring day of work, when you have had a fight with many project stakeholders and co-workers, you reached home late. You are exhausted and you find that your wife and kids are waiting at home to go out for dinner in a restaurant nearby. As soon as the door is opened at home, your wife asks a question about the reason for this delay. At this moment what do you feel? How do you react to your wife\u2019s question? Some may take it easy and explain the situation to her that there is an emergency in the office and it took most of his time to concentrate on the nature of the job and its outcome. But some may get offended by such a question and then you probably know what might happen next?\n\n\n\nIf you attach the meaning to her question like,\n\n\n\n\u201cYes, I had promised my wife and kids to take them to the dinner. I forgot to call them and tell them about such an urgent task appeared. We could postpone the dinner for the next day\u201d,\n\n\n\n I such a scenario, you find that you will explain to her the situation in a very polite way and the rest of the situation is under control;\n\n\n\nIf you are one of those who attach belief as,\n\n\n\n"She doesn\u2019t understand that I had a very tiring day in my office today. She shouldn\u2019t ask such questions when I return home. Why are they ready to go to the restaurant? I did not call them from the office and tell them to get ready.\u201d \n\n\n\nYou will find that your mood changes to bad and you get angry and offended by this question. It may result in a big fight with her, lead to raising heart rate and increase blood pressure.\n\n\n\nThere are different feelings such as being comfortable in the preceding situation, while miffed, offended, and angry feelings later. Even though the event is the same, but two different behaviors and two distinctive results were reported. Also, there may be different behaviors, such as accommodative, adaptive, or anger and avoiding talking to her. Both behaviors are the result of the belief you attach to the event.\n\n\n\nI don\u2019t need to explain what happens next in both situations. Remember, your spouse is not your property, he or she is your partner who equally deserves respect as you do. Respect your partner and gain high respect in return. \n\n\n\nRead more: Don't worry, be happy\n\n\n\n Intellectual thinking is key to adapt positive behavior\n\n\n\nIntellectual thinking is most important in order to take control of our emotions and behaviors in any situation.\n\n\n\nSome of the negative emotions may include, fear, anger, sadness, disgust, surprise, anxiety, depression, envy, guilt, hurt, jealousy and shame, etc. And its related behavior includes avoiding something, becoming isolated, laziness, being violent, over-eating or restricting food intake, avoiding a situation, procrastination, seeking reassurance, taking alcohol or prohibited medications, using safety behaviors, etc.\n\n\n\n Some of the positive emotions may include, joy, happiness, hope, pride (Not arrogance or ego, these are negative emotions), inspirations, gratitude, etc. And it\u2019s related behavior includes, energetic, caring, charming, enthusiastic, faithful, funny, and kind, etc.\n\n\n\nCall to action:\n\n\n\nKeep one notebook and pen on the side table beside your\nbed. \n\n\n\nWrite the title of this notebook as my positive diary.\n\n\n\nThis notebook you will use for the next 30 days to write your \u201cDaily goals\u201d. Write your day-to-day observation of your negative thoughts or situations, your reactions to those thoughts or situations, and your own suggestions on how you could improve to correct those situations or thinking processes under the call to action.\n\n\n\n Write daily goals at the beginning of the day, and call to action at the end of the day.\n\n\n\nWhen you are awake:\n\n\n\nWrite in the diary on the top of the page, \u201cToday, I will stay positive all day.\u201d\n\n\n\nI want to achieve___________________________________________________\nin my life.\n\n\n\nMy today\u2019s goal is\n_________________________________________________\n\n\n\n Before sleeping:\n\n\n\nWrite today's minimum 3 events or thoughts which you think were negative in nature.\n\n\n\nExplain the meanings you attached to such events or thoughts.\n\n\n\n\nRecord your reaction to these situations in brief. It may be positive or negative.\n\n\n\nWrite your opinion on how you could have done better to improve the situation.\n\n\n\nWrite today's thoughts or events which you think were negative Explain the meanings you attached to such thoughts or eventsRecord your reaction to such thoughts or events What do you think you could have done better to improve in such Scenarios?1.2.3.